Going Through the Immigration Process to Bring Your Nigerian Husband to America (Part II)

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Going Through the Immigration Process to Bring

Your Nigerian Husband to America (Part II)

 

I can finally sing a new song, for my wonderful Nigerian husband and I were reunited on Thursday, June 19, 2008.  The journey was long, trying, and an emotional roller coaster, but the joy of our reunion has wiped the painful memories of our 17 months of separation away from our hearts and minds.  Matter fact, just one week after my husband came to America, he received his social security card, and a few days after his third week here, he received his permanent residence card (expiring 2018).  Prior to his permanent residence card expiring, he can apply for citizenship, which he will do.  God has been with us every step of the way, and for that we are eternally grateful!

haters”.  Focus on what matters to you and your spouse—not on what a negative stranger, relative, or friend has to say about your choice to marry a Nigerian man.  Believe in a blessed, bright, and happy future with your spouse.  Do not allow others to dampen your spirit, love, and faith in your spouse when spears of hatred are sent your way—believe me, they will come from all directions! 

Before I continue, I want to state that I am sharing my “personal experience” of going through the immigration process.  There are various types of visas, and the immigration journey will differ depending on what type of visa one is seeking.  The visa my husband received is an immigrant visa, so that is the one I am referring to here.

When I wrote “Going through the Immigration Process to Bring Your Nigerian Husband to America (Part I)”, I left off at the point where I was assigned as my husband’s agent, which means I received all of his paperwork from the National Visa Center.  Once we completed all of the required paperwork, I received a letter in October 2007, stating that we would next receive a letter from the NVC informing us of when my husband’s interview date and time will be at the Nigerian Embassy. When I called the NVC to inquire how long it would take before my husband would have his interview, I was told some married couples have waited up to 2 years or more.  That was very discouraging, for we met May 2006, married January 4, 2007, and the time was steady ticking away; we wanted to be together as husband and wife and start our life together.  A representative from the NVC told me that they schedule interviews during the 2nd week of each month, so monthly I called to see if my husband’s interview was scheduled.  Each time I called from November 2007 to March 2008, the answer was always “no”.  This became very disheartening, for we had been apart for a very long time at this point.  As the time ticked by, my husband and I (especially my husband) read many things about the interview process and possible questions that would be asked during the interview; so he could be fully prepared.  At one point, we contemplated on hiring an immigration lawyer, for we hoped this would speed up the process.  In March 2008, I emailed the NVC asking that they send me a copy of the letter they sent me in October 2007 stating that my husband was waiting to be scheduled an interview at the Nigerian Embassy.  To both our surprise, and prior to the 2nd week of the month, we received an email from the NVC stating that my husband’s interview was scheduled for April 11, 2008.  The joy and happiness we felt at knowing the last step in the immigration process was soon approaching was indescribable. 

 

My husband’s interview was very successful, and I wanted to list some of the questions he was asked and what he took in preparation for his interview.  Now, all of the documents that was required and sent to the NVC during the long NVC process as forwarded to the Nigerian Embassy, so he did not have to take copies of anything that was already submitted.  All he had to do was show up on April 11, 2008, but he did take other documents with him to help prove his continued relationship with me during our long separation.  He took the following items with him:

 

ü  He printed off one email per week from the time we met leading up to the date of the interview (bound in a book with a Table of Contents)

marriage proposal” he sent to me, and my “yes” response to him

ü  Marriage pictures

ü  Marriage Video CD

Note:  you will be asked to do this as part of the NVC requirements, but if the Police Character Certificate is more than 3 months old, you MUST get another one.

 

The following are some of the questions he was asked, but please NOTE that your questions will differ depending on who is asking the questions.  My husband’s questions were:

 

1.     How did you meet your wife?

2.     Why did you choose her as your wife?

3.     What are the names  and ages of your wife’s children (this is my second marriage)

4.     What is your wife’s phone number?

5.     Tell me what you know about your wife? (this lead to other questions, so be prepared)

 

she was impressed with that). 

 

Please note that prior to the interview, your spouse must (or should) have his medical examination concluded.  If he has not done this, it will delay his visa from being given to him!

 

UPON ENDORSEMENT SERVES AS A TEMPORARY I-551 EVIDENCING PERMENENT RESIDENCE FOR 1 YEAR.  However, he received his permanent residence card in a few days past 3 weeks of arriving here, and it expires in 2018.  As was stated,  he can apply for citizenship in a few years.

 

My husband flew in on Thursday, June 19, 2008; and on Monday, July 23, 2008 we were in the social security office applying for his social security card, which was mailed to him in one week.  The temporary permanent residence card (stamped in his passport when given to him) was accepted as proof of his being an immigrant.

 

IMPORTANT:  Please note, my husband said it is important to clearly answer all the questions truthfully, completely and with confidence.  If you DO NOT UNDERSTAND a question due to the accent of the Consulate Officer, or you simply do not understand what they are asking; please ASK THE CONSULATE OFFICER TO REPEAT THE QUESTION.  The interview was held between a glass panel, so your spouse may have to ask that a question to be repeated.  You will be standing during the interview process.

 

Your spouse should be on time (well in advance), neatly dressed, and totally confident in his response; for it will be one of the most important interviews of his life.  Not everyone was granted a visa on that day, and I am very grateful the Lord blessed my husband to be granted with his.  I pray that you too have a successful outcome!

 

God bless you and your husband!

I wish you the best!

 

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47 Responses to “Going Through the Immigration Process to Bring Your Nigerian Husband to America (Part II)”

  1. LostinTime says:

    Congrats must be a great feeling… The time you waited was not so bad … I am the son grandson cousin nephew of American citizens I am from Europe,

    160 of my family are in America and only one outside of America, I have waited 18 years so far and my visa and it will take another 7-10 years before I get it because I overstayed a visa back in the 90′s, my punishment is a life time of waiting in the dark.

    Note on your story its so important to watch every move you make while applying one mistake can cost you a lifetime.

    The NVC has no reality of a humans life span.

    .

  2. LostinTime says:

    Congrats must be a great feeling… The time you waited was not so bad … I am the son grandson cousin nephew of American citizens I am from Europe,

    160 of my family are in America and only one outside of America, I have waited 18 years so far and my visa and it will take another 7-10 years before I get it because I overstayed a visa back in the 90′s, my punishment is a life time of waiting in the dark.

    Note on your story its so important to watch every move you make while applying one mistake can cost you a lifetime.

    The NVC has no reality of a humans life span.

    .

    • Deborah Onafuye says:

      I got thru the uscis I went thru d NVC I even got my husband and inter view now they turned him down I feel because of our age difference but this is what we want we love each other we were married in his country which was Nigeria now I want my husband home in the US with me and this is what my husband letter read for the reason why they are sending it back to the uscis “Evidence indicates that this relationship was entered for purpose of immigration” Now mind you he never applied for a visa to the US or any where else and this is what they came up with.I have wrote to my State represenitive for Ohio and the Governor for my state to inter vine this is not right I feel they are discreminating against me because of our age difference we have been talking every day for over a year now we were married in Feb of this year you tell me what it is????????

      • Patricia Daboh says:

        Deborah, I am so sorry your husband was turned down. My husband best friend, and best man at our wedding, was also turned down at his interview. My husband and I married on January 4, 2007, and my husband’s friend married November 2007. As of yet, they are not together, which is very disheartening to them and us. It appears as though the “interviewers” now are tediously, scrutinizing applications as compared to how it was done when my husband came through. My husband’s interview was April 11, 2008. I hope things work out for you.

  3. pmdaboh says:

    @Lostin Time. Thank you for the congratulations. Although it felt like a lifetime my husband and I waited, we realized that others have waited longer; and for some are still waiting. I pray you keep encouraged as you wait for your visa, but it seems as though your family has been able to endure the test of time with most of them being in America. God bless you, and thank you so much for your words.

    • Erika says:

      Thank youk so much for sharing your stoy, I have been looking for a forum that women in our position can talk and support each other in our times of waiting for our husbands. We are not married yet, He has applied for a visiting visa for us to meet. Then to follow we plan to marry.Are there any forums for us women to meet to support each other? God bless the both of you and those who are going thrugh the same experiences

      • pmdaboh says:

        It seems that you have confirmed something that I had been tossing around, which is to create a website for women in this position. No one knows the ups, downs, lonliness, frustrations, and emotions that we feel as we wait patiently (and sometimes impatiently) for our spouse/fiances to come to us. I am very grateful to God that my wait was no more than 17 months, for others wait much longer than that. I hope and pray things turn out for you the way you want them to. God bless.

    • Osman says:

      hi , At last my one year American girlfriend married me on 7 january 2009 after she visited me in Kenya. I am Somali by nationality but I stay in Kenya. Now she is already in California. I wouldl ike you to advise us what we should do as we apply for the visa becuase after reading your articles I have learnt that you are perfect in giving advise because you have already gone through this. I will be happy for a quick reply.
      my email is abdidool@hotmail.com
      Thanks.

      • Sherri says:

        It’s been awhile since I read your story, but I saved it, and am glad I did.

        Have been talking to a Nigerian guy for a year now and am finally about to go to Lagos and meet him face-to-face. Due to the costs involved, we may marry while I am there, and if we do, like the others who are writing you, filing the the papers to petition him seems to be the first step. I’m just not sure exactly which papers to start wtih…..

        You’re sooo VERY right about how cruel people can be. I hear it all the time and some of the things they say are very hurtful. Seems a lot of it is just because he’s Nigerian….

        Anyhow, your story is very inspiring, and I’m very glad that you and your beloved are together and happy.

    • Osman says:

      hi , At last my one year American girlfriend married me on 7 january 2009 after she visited me in Kenya. I am Somali by nationality but I stay in Kenya. Now she is already in California. I wouldl ike you to advise us what we should do as we apply for the visa becuase after reading your articles I have learnt that you are perfect in giving advise because you have already gone through this. I will be happy for a quick reply.
      my email is abdidool@hotmail.com
      Thanks.

  4. Bert says:

    Now that he has all the papers he needs in hand you better look out. I’m surprised you are so gullible and do not realize what you’ve done. That’s on you. I feel sorry for your family since they will have to be there helping you pick up the pieces once he gets through with you. Talk about desperate. Just wow.

  5. pmdaboh says:

    I see one of the haters has arisen. Remember I said that “haters” come from all diections. However thank God I know that I am blessed and highly favored (saith the Lord). No weapon formed against me shall prosper. Keep loving your Nigerian husband, readers, and do not allow anyone to suggest just because a man is Nigerian he is devious and using you. There are users right here in America, but when you allow God to work things out for your life and send you the right man or woman, your union is blessed. Only receive words of encouragment, and do not allow “haters” to pull you down. God bless!

  6. azbaby8062 says:

    Congratulations! It is nice to hear that your journey has finally come to a very nice ending. I wish you and your husband nothing but success. I had been wondering what had happened.

  7. pmdaboh says:

    @Azbaby8062, hello! How have you been doing? Thank you so much for your kind words. I wish you and your family the very best.

  8. NYWM says:

    Patricia, it is very thoughtful of you to share your experience with everyone. I am sure this information will be very helpful to others. I am happy for you!

    Your friend,
    John

  9. pmdaboh says:

    Hello John. Thanks for your kind comments.

  10. S.O says:

    Hi there..congratulations!!! you are so lucky… im in singapore.. my husband and I have been married for 3 years now and the Singapore government is not letting him stay for more than 30 days… it’s going to be a long long journey for us… I hope my ending will be like yours and it will come soon…

    • pmdaboh says:

      Thanks so much! My heart goes out to you, for you and your husband have been separated for a long time. I will pray that you two will be permanently joined together soon. God bless!

  11. Gani says:

    Hi
    I am expecting my fiacee from USA to come down to Nigeria because I have been rejected the US visa before in december 2004, what should we expect as we need to know because this is her first visit to Nigeria. I congratulate you for you sucess with your husband Your responsed will be honored.
    G

    • Patricia Daboh says:

      I apologize for not responding sooner, but I have not checked the website for a while now. I am really not sure what you should expect, for Americans, like any other people, are as different from one another as night and day. She must love you a lot, for she is coming to you. That fact alone means she is willing to adjust and adopt your culture, and I hope and pray you will adjust to her culture as well. God bless, and best wishes!

      • cheri says:

        patricia please help me be able to get hings together to have my fiance from nigeria come here to ny us im not to sure where to start

  12. Haruna says:

    I am also someone whose wife petitioned to be admitted to the US too, so I can understand all you went thru. However I want you to understand that the fact you are a Nigerian is a bad tag. Just less than two years since I got here I am now facing a felony charge which my only way out depends on how well my lawyer can explain that the so called wrong is not a crime. So in short be careful

    • pmdaboh says:

      Haurna: I hope things work out for you. Do you mind sharing what type of charge you are facing. Is it a matter of not filing your paperwork on time? I hope and pray all goes well for you and your wife.

      • Haruna says:

        Its a job related problem. The police was called on me for something they usually just fire a staff for just because am a Nigerian.

  13. Patricia Daboh says:

    I pray the Lord blesses you, and things work out for you. Do not be discouraged, Haruna, but take hope. I will be praying for you. Nigerians are honorable people, and there is much good in them. I hope you have a good lawyer. I will praying for you on this end. God bless!

  14. ATLLady says:

    So has your husband been able to find employment since he has his paperwork? I think you said you are in Atlanta correct? I know the job market is not good here in Georgia.

    • pmdaboh says:

      I apologize for the delay in responding, for I am taking a fast-track Master course, learning a new job in North Carolina, where we relocated to (not Atlanta), and I am behind in responding. I am going to write an article about employment for foreigners, and I hope that will helps. Please wait for it.

      • ATLlady says:

        Thanks for keeping us posted. If everything goes well, I plan to bring my Nigerian man to the states to wed. So your blogs have kept me in the know about a lot of things.

  15. ATLlady says:

    Oh I forgot to say I am proud of you for sticking to your guns despite the bad press you received!! I know it was well worth the wait, and that man is making you happy! How is your stepson adjusting to everything?

  16. cdBoateng says:

    I am going through this process right now in Ghana, but am living in Ghana and so have the hopeful advantage of doing things through this embassy–it is a long and strange process and thanks for writing this because it helps me know what to expect.

    Here’s wishing your marriage many blessings!

  17. sarellobidiya says:

    Hi Patricia,
    I love what you have done here and sharing your story has touched so many lives. My husband and I married on February 19, 2009 and I am the happiest I have ever been. He is still in Nigeria and the most difficult part for me to grasp an understanding on is where exactly to start. What form(s) do I file first?…Should I get a lawyer? Can I do it myself or with the help of friends? I am just looking foward to the journey that is before me and my husband that I know was only given to us by God. After reading your story, I fowarded it to my husband and he also said he felt motivated after reading it! If you could help steer me in the right direction, it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you again for sharing your very personal journey and giving hope to those of us who need it!

  18. pmdaboh says:

    @Sarellobidiya

    Hello, again. When you get back to the U.S., you must file your petitions immediately to start the process of him coming to you. It is a lengthy process, so get your heart and mind set for that. My husband’s friend’s wife hired a lawyer, and they are not as nearly close to the end of their process, as we were at that pont in time and I did our paperwork without a lawyer. It took 17 months from start to finish (marriage to when he flew to me). They are going on 17 months, and way behind at that point from when my husband actually flew to me, and they have a lawyer. We were not going to pay a lawyer to do what I could do “FREE”, but everyone is different. Read my first steps about filing the petition to start the process. I will say the fees have GONE UP DRASTICALLY since I filed my petitions, which makes it more difficult. I am very glad my articles are encouraging others, for that was the purpose of them. I am going to write another article about mending and blending with your African husband.

  19. Evelyn says:

    Your article has provided many people caurrage to keep ahead on their doing and may this be blessed. Thank you for it and God bless you and good luck on your future life and journey. The same to your husband. Can you explain to your readres with more exactly details about all steps to make starting through day one? What if your white from a latin country and want to marry a Nigerian, does this matter to those people? How did you both met, does it really matters to them? Bye know and many blessings to your marriage.

  20. Cassie says:

    Hi….I am an American married to a Ghanaian man. I met him here in Ghana and am now living here with him while we go through the visa process. I found this link while trying to google information about the process. Thanks very much for your detailed writing and your positive attitude! It has helped me know what to expect in what can be a very stressful and crazy process. Many blessings to you and your husband.

    • PRINCE'S WIFE says:

      YOU ARE JUST BLESSED TO STILL BE WITH HIM. IM HAPPY THAT YOU GET TO SEE HIS FACE EVERYDAY. KEEP PUSHING FORWARD.. IM JUST STARTING. KEEPING IN PRAYER..PRINCE’S WIFE

  21. Patricia Daboh says:

    Thank you Cassie!

    • Cassie says:

      You are welcome. I see that up above you mentioned writing an article about finding jobs for foreigners and mending with your African husband….these aren’t topics that most people deal with and I am still learning as I go. I would love to read what you have written. Could you post the link?

    • Sundayeze says:

      Patricia thank u for ur informations am selching for something here befor i see all this pass experience i am so much happy to see this please i need ur help my wife is American citizens we just married two weeks ago in Nigeria now i am about to start processing my pepper but i don’t know were to start please can u tell me how to and what they to need. Thank u hope to hear from u soon more blessing to

  22. Jaronda Chambers says:

    Hello, I think your stories are very inspiring and I too have fallen in love with a Man from West Africa we both have declared our love and are planning on marrying in May 2010 in Togo..He has changed my life for the better and God has truly bless me with the perfect man and I can not wait until we become husband and wife…I have printed off both of your articles and have gotten all kinds of information I need to start our process once I come back to the states..is there any thing else I need to know..tell me how was it when you met him for the first time and how well did you like Africa…to me it is a place that everyone should visit at least once in their lifetime….all in all I hope your marriage lasts a lifetime and God Bless you!!!

    • PRINCE'S WIFE says:

      I THINK…IF IM READING IT RIGHT THAT YOU ARE IN AFRICA AS YOU WROTE THIS EMAIL? ARE YOU BACK IN THE STATES YET. I WAS THERE RECENTLY AS WELL ACTUALLY AT THE SAME TIME. I’D LIKE TO CHAT WITH YOU SO WE CAN COMPARE NOTES AND HELP EACHOTHER THROUGH THIS PROCESS.THIS IS SOMETHING THAT NO ONE CAN UNDERSTAND THAT ISN’T OR HASN’T GONE THROUGH IT. LOVE HAS NO BOUNDARIES OR BOARDERS..IT’S A SHAME TO PUT A DOTTED LINE ACCROSS THE WORLD AND SAY “STAY PUT”. REACH OUT AND I’LL REACH BACK.. SOON

  23. just me says:

    Patricia how have u been doing since your marriage now?I just started my filing this month and we are about to send forms out with an aid of a lawyer…u need to get back to me so we can talk my email is feriwalson_co@yahoo.com

  24. just me says:

    i also want to know if my petiton wld be speeded cuz i have a baby by my petitioner that is my fiance,my baby is 5months old now and we met a year and 3months now wev known eachother for about 2years and some months so i want to know if my petiton of fiance visa might be speeded by the usics

  25. PRINCE'S WIFE says:

    I RECENTLY MARRIED MY NIGERIAN MAN… I HAD A WONDERFUL TIME IN NIGERIA WITH HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS WITH ALL THE LOVE THEY HAVE GIVEN US. IM BACK IN THE STATES NOW.. ITS ONLY BEEN THREE DAYS AND MY HEART IS SO BROKEN AND I MISS HIM DRASTICALLY EVENTHOUGH WE CAM AND TALK CONSTANTLY. MY ISSUE IS THE PAPERWORK AND QUESTIONS. HOW DO YOU GET IMMIGRATION TO HELP YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT OR HOW TO ANSWER SOME OF THE QUESTIONS? I DONT WANT A LAWYER I CAN FILE FOR US. WE HAVE ASKED EACHOTHER IF WE CAN ENDURE THIS JOURNEY AND WE BOTH AGREE THAT GOD DIDNT BRING US THIS FAR TO STOP NOW. ANY ACCURATE INFORMATION ANYONE HAS PLEASE RESPOND. THANKS FOR THE LOVE STORY OF PROMISE IT WAS INSPIRING AND IM TRYING TO PULL IT TOGETHER. NO TIME FOR TEARS..?

    • Deborah Onafuye says:

      Rapid Visa is the answer there number is 1-800-872-1458 they are the ones who help me with all the paper work u can call them as much and as many times as you need to they will walk you thru ur process.

  26. Sara says:

    Hi,
    I’m very fortunate to be married to a Nigerian as well. I just married my husband last month. My husband is in the US on a student visa right now, which expires in December. I’m currently working to save money so that we can apply together for permanent residency. Has anyone gone through this process of updating their status and can give me any advice?

    Thanks!

  27. NIS says:

    Hello Every One

    The Nigerian 2013/2014 immigration recruitment application form is available online now
    call 08138201126 for assistance

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