Is Black Really Beautiful?
November 20, 2007 |  Patricia Daboh (Archives)


Is Black Really Beautiful?

        Today, due to the impending Thanksgiving holiday in which our school week will end on Tuesday, I decided to show my 7th grade Technology students a movie.  The movie, entitled Brother Future, is about a black teenager who does not take his education seriously.  He daydreams in class when he should be listening to the teacher and taking in knowledge, he skips school whenever he feels like it, and he steals goods and resells it later to his ever-waiting customers.  Well the teenager gets hit by a car and is propelled—not into the future—but back into the 1820s when slavery was in full swing.  The purpose of my showing the movie was to help the students identify with the age of the character and his learning that education is a vital component of being successful and is directly connected to the quality of life one will have in the future. 

        During the film, my students’ eyes were glued on the projection screen, which enlarged the movie to such a degree that it could be viewed from almost any angle in the classroom.  My students began to ask me questions about what they were seeing in the movie.  For instance, one student said, “Why can’t he tell them he is not going to pick cotton in that field?”  Another one said, “If I was back there, I would not do it!”  Another asked, “Why does that slave have to go around to the back of his master’s house and not use the front door?”  The questions and comments went on throughout the movie, and I answered the questions and joined in the conversations that had sparked many interests about slavery and education, or a lack of Black education, during that time period.    

        I have a Bachelor of Science degree in Business Administration, and I moved from the corporate world of business to teach—to make a difference.  I am not a history teacher—although I do know history facts and can produce a decent answer when questioned.  But what astonished me is that my Black students (for the majority of them are Black) did not know many facts at all about the history of our own people.  Sure, some students could tell you that they were told that lynching and beatings and unfair treatment took place, but they seemed surprised about many things that were taking place in the movie.  So I asked them, “Does your History teacher talk about slavery in your class?”  Most of the students said, “No”.  “And if the teacher does, it is only just for a few minutes and we move onto something else.”

        I realized in that moment that many of Black America is ignorant about where they came from.  Some of my students did not even know that Charleston, South Carolina is documented as being the place where the first slaves were brought to when they landed in America. 

        Later that evening, I came home and read an article by Michael Oluwagemi II on Nigerians In America entitled, Mark My Words . . . Nigeria and Africa Shall Be Free.  I thoroughly enjoyed what he had to say, for I know, by personal observation, how much poverty has taken hold of Nigeria.  I have never been able to get those images out of my mind—and I do not want to—for it is what holds me to her (Africa) in my heart.  I simply love Africa and its people—although I hate to see the suffering of my people.  However, I think another type of poverty has taken hold of Black America, and that poverty, to me, is cultural and ancestral ignorance. 

        I wrote an article entitled Disconnected from the Motherland some time ago, and after today’s experience, I believe Black America is also disconnected from themselves and their own African history.  We are failing to teach our children where they came from—never mind going as far back to the Motherland (Africa), let us at least start at the point when our African ancestors were shackled, chained, and brought into Charleston, South Carolina and sold into slavery. 

        I wondered why we Black Americans changed our ethnicity name from Black to African American.  Who thought of that?  Did someone say it was politically correct to be named such?  When I think about how much Black America do NOT identify with their African brothers and sisters (as a whole), why do we love the name so much then (African American).  Are we merely interested in the theory of Africa but not in the identification with it?  I am afraid for many that might be the case.   

        I have noticed that our Black children do not mind being Black as long as their skin color is not TOO BLACK.  Most of them will tell you that they do not want to be to dark skinned and cover their mouths in a grin when they say it as if embarrassed by their admission.  If you are light skinned, according to them, you are in another class of “blackness” (a better class as far as beauty).  On more than one occasion, my students have referred to a dark-skinned person as an African.  They forget in that moment, or at least I choose to believe it was not intentional, that my husband is African.  I will say something like, “I guess you have forgotten my husband is African!”  Then they will say, “Mrs. Daboh we did not mean any harm.”  I remind them that some of the most beautiful men and women in this world are Africans, and they come in all shades of colors like we do.  If young Blacks feel that way now and hold those prejudices within their own race of people, I wonder how their children, who will be reared by them, will think of a dark-skinned, Black person or an African.    

        Nigeria and Africa in all their poverty is really just a heart beat away from the ancestral and cultural poverty that Black America suffers.  Are we allowing our Black youths to be groomed to believe that “black is not beautiful?”  Is the saying, “I’m Black and I’m proud” just a cliché? I am afraid many Blacks do not mind being Black, as long as it is not TOO BLACK.

        Will Black America’s poverty stricken attitude against its own culture prevail to the point that we are, not only ashamed of ourselves, but ashamed of where we originated from?  In our eyes, is Black really beautiful?

 

 

 

 

       





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Dominic
11/20/2007 6:38:37 pm
Ancestral and cultural poverty! That's quite a mouthful. But let's move on. The question is: does history matter? Does black history matter in a black kid's education?

I am as proud an african as you will ever get, and I always say that nobody ever regretted reading a book. But I am still not too sure how much black-american history I should pass on to my kids, and more importantly, at what age.

I remember this one time we tried to watch that old famous movie "Gone With the Wind" . After about 3 minutes, my daughter asked, totally innocently: "but why are those black folks serving the white folks?"

What the hell should I have answered to an 8 y
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pmdaboh
11/20/2007 6:43:48 pm
Your point was well taken. But my point is that many Blacks (young, middle-age, and older) are ashamed of the blackness of their skin color (unless, of course, it is light-skinned or brown-skinned). Where are we getting that from? Are we as parents handing it down to our children? When I was young and I would go to the beach during the summer months day-after-day with my friends, my brown skin turned a darker shade. My mom would say to me, "Patty, you are going to be black as midnight if you don't stop going to the beach so much!" I learned my darker colored skin was not pleasing to mom, for I had become TOO BLACK. When my children were young and we would come home after a day at the(more...)

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Dominic
11/21/2007 12:15:12 pm
I totally agree with you on the issue of skin colour. I can't say for other parts of africa, but when it comes to pride on skin colour, north americans might actually be doing better than some of their nigerian counterparts. In north america, I don't run into ladies who bleach their skin. In Nigeria, you run into that all the time.

Also, while groups like the Yoruba remain culturally authentic for the most part, I run into Igbo Nigerians, even living in Nigeria, who want their kids to speak nothing other than English (yeah!). They give and call their kids by the most bombastic English names available ("Alfred")!. Of course, by default, Africans worship western deities these d
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MoAl
12/01/2007 6:03:53 pm
Good question ... Black is beautiful, but depending on where you live, that statement can mean two completely different things --- Some places, dark skin is most desired and while lighter complexions are given less attention, and vice versa as you've said.

Media and pop-culture unfortunately tint all of our senses towards what is accepted as "beautiful", and the more impressionable the person's mind is --- in this case, school-children --- the more their opinions will reflect the media's.

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vitaminD
12/01/2007 11:14:20 pm
I'm so glad I stumbled on this article. It's exactly what I'm struggling with as I'm coming of age as a Nigerian & an American female.
Sadly, I think that it'll be whatever the media reinforces to youth. Media says Alicia Keys is pretty, then she's pretty regardless of cornrows.
Would most women have even thought about Seal as "sexy" until he became the husband of supermodel Heidi Klum?
And the list goes on...
Maybe if I hire someone to do my PR, then I could popularize my look...hmm...

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odere
12/09/2007 8:43:48 pm
There's a phrase in "The Women of Brewster's Place" novel that says "Black is neither beautiful nor ugly. Black is just that: Black." I am inclined to associate thinking of being Black in this world with this phrase because the moment we start to romanticise our color, the real tendency is there to lose sight with what's really important to do, both individually and collectively, as a race of people, for our greater good and the good of mankind at large. Blacks in America, generally speaking, may be chronically ignorant about their history and less comfortable with their identity but what would you say about the continental Africans who are consciously running away from their own identity, a(more...)

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pmdaboh
12/09/2007 9:14:30 pm
@Odere

Thank you for commenting on my article. I believe your point about being confused is very real. I comment on various topics on other boards as well, and one in particular talked about Nigerians who feel the need to change their names when they come over to America, for they feel they will not get a job if others know that they are Nigerian with so much focus on activities coming from that part of the world right now. Ironically, some do what they must in order to "get their foot in the door", and if that means disassociating themselves from their country, even temporarily, then that is what is done. It is a shame that a reputation can cause some of them to be asham
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Juanita
1/03/2008 2:17:47 pm
Patricia, seems like you'd already know why some blacks do not want to be referred to as African Americans. It's because they recognize how Africans truly feel about this so they're ready to move on and forget about Africa and the Africans in it. No more no less.

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EMEKAEKWUE VICTORIA IFEOMA
7/25/2008 8:11:40 am
Thanks for reminding Africans who they are, regardless of geographic location. Africans should unit and build a great and better AFRICA. Lets stop running away from our root.

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antoinette
8/05/2008 10:01:17 pm
First off all, "black americans came from mesopotamia and not africa. some filterated into africa and some into what is called the u.s. second, we did not come from slavery, every ethnic group was in some type of bondage but everyone is trying to stick black america into a slave box. alex haley, the writer of "roots" lied about his story so it can sell. the real truth is coming out about how the first slave ship that came over where indentured white slaves and how slavery was going on in africa.

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Leye Ige
8/06/2008 12:23:26 pm
There is a difference between indentured slavery, where the slave is not Personal Property and "chattel slavery" where the slave is. I don't know where you got your history from but I do know that the Atlantic slave trade plied the Africa-US route.

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maeliss usher
4/01/2009 3:28:55 pm
how can u say that slaves were not Africans that's plain ignorant! of course they were Africans. westerners came to the shores of Africa first as a stop towards other continents. Mesopotamian was long gone. westerners started setting on the shores and after a while they started trading with the African villages, the thing is we already had slaves when tribes would fight the losing tribes would become their slaves and that's how it started. the village leader would give their salves in exchange for guns. it was not until a long time did the whites actually venture into the African lands. as prove of u can go visit the remains of the slave castles in Ghana! PS:(roots is the story of his ancest(more...)

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